Conscious Parenting Meditation: When Your Child Won’t Listen

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Hello, and welcome to this conscious parenting meditation on connecting with your child and

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getting them to listen to you.

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Now, idly, whenever you are asking your child to do something, you think that you are

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acting out of their best interest.

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After all, if you are asking them to do their homework, or to stop playing video games,

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or to stop interacting with a certain person, you really feel that it is in their best interest.

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But this can often be a very charged situation as well, because your child is their own being.

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They have their own mind, their own way of processing and thinking about things.

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And they may or may not be making decisions that seem right to you.

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So, first, know that while it can feel really hard on the surface, know that deep behind

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all of this, spiritually, there is a lesson for you.

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Your child is always reflecting back to you your own wounds.

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Your kids are showing to you where you need to be healed.

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So, sometimes, when you get triggered by how your kids are reacting, take a deeper look

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at what it is inside you that resents that.

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This meditation definitely helps you look and understand these deeper parts of you that

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are seeking this healing.

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With this practice, you will be able to calm yourself, you will be able to heal your

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own hurt and triggers, and you will also be able to calm your child without even speaking

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with them.

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You will be able to calm their energy around the whole situation, so that when you both

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get together and talk, it's really aligned and it's coming from a place of higher guidance

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for your child.

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So, when you're ready, take a nice deep breath, settle down, find yourself a nice space, and

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just get comfortable.

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Take a big breath, like really, really deep inhale, because often these situations can

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feel really charged, and we might not be taking full breaths, so just take a full breath,

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simply allowing it to go inside you and take a nice exhale outside.

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Letting go of all the frustration, all the worries that you are feeling right now.

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Again, breathing in, relaxation, breathing in your inner peace, and then breathing out all

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the scales, all this confusion, all this drama, a nice deep exhale.

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Now another breath, breathing in your freedom, breathing in your calmness, letting it flow

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all through you, going all through your body parts and cells and veins, and then exhaling

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out all the tension and the heaviness.

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And so in front of you, as you close your eyes, just imagine a picture of you, a moving picture,

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just like the way you're sitting now or whatever position you are in, just imagine yourself

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with your eyes closed, and you could put some special fairy dust on yourself, maybe that's

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a purple color, and just let that purple color go onto your space, and then it will show

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you where all you are feeling tensed and frustrated.

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And that's okay, that's just a venous, you've just started the meditation and you will continue

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to heal yourself.

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So as you notice all of these purple spots on you, and maybe all of you is covered in

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these purple dots, that's okay, just imagine digging up a tunnel, it goes below your feet

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and it goes all the way to the earth, right to the center of the earth, so you are essentially

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creating an earthing connection for you, and earth as we all know, it is excellent at taking

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away all the negative charges, so just allow that connection, and allow the earth to start

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draining away all this negative energy inside you, and if you feel like it, you could even

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extend and expand your tunnel, so it doesn't have to just cover your feet, maybe the tunnel

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even comes up right to where you're sitting, so you're lower waist, and just imagine this

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grounding cord, this earthing channel, really taking away all the stress from your space,

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all the anxiety, all the tension, and taking it away into the earth, earth is a natural conductor,

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she is the mother earth, the divine mother earth, so just allow her to take all the

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stress and pain away from your space, and for now, as you are connecting with the divine

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mother earth, allow yourself to be the divine child, so maybe you are carrying a heavy backpack

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of responsibility, maybe there is a lot of stuff that's whole, maybe there is a lot of stuff

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that is hovering over your head and your head feels clouded, so just allow the earth to

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take it away, so as you connect with the earth, notice how you are starting to feel a little

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bit more relaxed, and now you are realizing other parts in your body that are feeling really

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heavy and tensed, you notice there is a heavy backpack that you're carrying, it's full of

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responsibilities and weight of things that you've got to do, all the tasks you have to finish,

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all the endless chores, so you can take that backpack and just drop it down the tunnel and

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it can go right into the earth, and the earth can take that heaviness away, and don't worry,

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nothing is going to go away if it is not meant to go away, when you give all the heaviness

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to earth, she is just covering, when you give all the heaviness to earth, she is just converting,

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all that negative charge into positive charge, so life just gets easier for you, all the

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pure positive energy comes back, and all the heaviness, all the negative energy, all

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that's not serving you, the noise, the friction, all of that starts to get washed away, so just

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allow your divine mother earth to take away the big backpack of responsibilities and chores

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that you're carrying, and then look at your head, and maybe it's filled with all kinds

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of thoughts and possible scenarios of the worst things that will happen, and so just let

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all of that drain into the earth as well, and just breathe, taking in a nice deep breath,

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allowing relaxation to come in, and allowing all this frustration and tiredness to release,

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and leave your space, and here that you are connecting with the divine mother earth, notice

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that right now in this space you can be the child, right now you don't have to be the parent,

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so you can just be the child and you can relax because you are with your divine mother,

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and she is the unconditionally loving mother, she doesn't judge you, she is only proud of you,

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she is not criticising how you look, what you are doing, etc, she understands your deep

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purpose on earth, the path that you are on, she fully gets your challenges, and she is totally

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100% there with you on this journey, so you can finally let all the defences go down,

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and you can just relax in this space, allowing mother earth to embrace you, almost as if she

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is hugging you, imagine her hands coming up, holding you, and you can be the little child,

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and notice as you connect with mother earth, there is also the gold sun that's starting to

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shine right above you, and if mother earth is the arch-type for divine mother, the sun

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is an arch-type for divine father energy, so you have got both your father energy and

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mother energy, and you can be the divine child, yes the divine child, so herein you have your

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space to claim, to ask them for anything, and they will give that to you, and you can let

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your stress and worries go, so as you look at your divine father, the sun, ask him, what

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would you want, if you want to feel some ease, some joy, just tell him that, that I want

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a lot of ease and joy, and this is getting too hard for me, so just make it easy, you are

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the divine child, so you can ask, you don't need to request, you can ask, and ask it as

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if it's yours, claim it, you are the divine child, it's your right, you have a right to

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be abundant and fulfilled on earth, so as the earth is taking away your stress and worries,

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and as the sun is showering you with all the love and affection and all the ease and joy

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that you want, make a claim, that I am a free being, and today I am claiming my freedom,

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it's my right, I am claiming my sovereign right, to be free, to live with joy and abundance,

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and so it is, and notice how the earth and the sun are standing behind you, really supporting

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you, nodding their head, and telling you, yes, this is your space, this is your right, so

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as you were starting to feel a little more relaxed and a little more settled, a little more

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in alignment with your freedom, now think of your child, that child that you want to listen

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to you, just think of your child, and see your child, another picture of them sitting right

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in front of you, and notice how they are feeling a lot of things, perhaps you noticing anger,

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you noticing frustration, you noticing sadness in your child and multiple other emotions,

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so you might notice how the earth wants to go ahead and connect with your child as well,

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so just allow that, allow the spirit of your child, as you say hello to them, allow the

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spirit of your child to also connect with Mother Earth, because Gaya holds unconditional

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love and limitless love for your child as well, and she wants to heal your child too, take

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away their stress and their worries as well, and it's not always your job, so just allow

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Mother Earth to do this, she is very good at it, and frankly she enjoys doing this, this

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is why she is holding the space for all of us on this planet, so allow the spirit of your

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child to connect with Mother Earth, and slowly you can notice how your child's spirit is also

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connecting with the gold sun, they have their own unique sun, that shining on them, there's

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one on you, there's one on your child, and this sun is powered by our sun in the solar

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system, this sun is also powered by the North Star, the North Star is the star that gives

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us all clarity around our path, around our direction where we are supposed to go, so

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just allow that light to come into you and to come into your child, and continue watching

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the Earth, the Divine Mother as she continues giving you a healing and giving your child a healing,

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breathe, and tune into your body and just notice what is happening in your body as you look

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at your child, as you look at their image and run to feel, where is it that your body is

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starting to feel a little different, maybe you feel some pain somewhere or some tingling,

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and then that's the spot where you're getting really triggered, so just tune into that area

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of your body and ask what is happening, why am I feeling so triggered by my child, what

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is it inside me that is resisting this idea, what is it inside me that resists the situation,

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and then notice how there is another picture of you that seems to pop up, and this picture

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is you when you are much younger, a tiny or a much smaller, a much younger version of you,

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just look at this child, look at your clothes that you are wearing here, look at how is this

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child part feeling, is this child feeling sad or is it angry, does it want to talk to you,

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or is it hiding, and as you look at this child part of you, you can just go and sit next to

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it, and just be there, like a loving parent, and just observe, because you will begin to tune

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in to why this child is not feeling really happy, and ask this child version of you, ask what

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do you want, I'm really sorry I did not see you for this long, I'm sorry I did not acknowledge

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you, I'm sorry you had to hide, I'm sorry that I did not tune in to you earlier, but I am

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here now and I want to understand you, what would you like, what is it that you are seeking,

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and notice as your inner child version comes out, and tells you something, now you might

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see a symbol, you might hear some words, you might get some thoughts, just focus on these

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and you'll get a little bit more guidance, I'll be quiet for a minute, to let you

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soak in, so as you understand your

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child more now, now you can, so as you understand your inner child more now, you are now getting

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a much fuller picture of why you feel triggered, so as you understand your inner child more now,

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you can just go closer to your inner child, maybe hug them, maybe hold their hand, wipe

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their tears, and then you can tell your inner child that I'm really sorry, I did not see

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you earlier, I'm sorry you had to hide, I'm sorry you had to run away, but I'm here now,

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and you don't need to be in hiding anymore, know that I love you, and regardless of what

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happened in the past, know that I see you, I validate you, I believe in you, and I've

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got you, so you don't need to be in hiding anymore, and from now on we will be friends, and I

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will always be there for you, so notice how as you say this, your inner child starts feeling

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much more happier and calmer, and as you say this, notice the earth energy coming up and

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giving you a very deep healing, right where in your body, your feeling stressed, all of

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that stress is starting to get washed away, as the earth is sending its own healing energy,

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and healing that body part and everywhere else in your space, so now your inner child's

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gone, it's happy and content, and you can look at your child again, your child, the one

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that you want to listen to something, so look at their child, so now look at your child,

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the one that you want to have a conversation with, the one you want to listen to something,

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and look at how your child is also behaving in a certain way, because they are wanting

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to be seen and heard, because they are wanting to be valued, so you can go ahead and tell

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your child that hey I'm here, I'm sorry I don't always fully understand you, but I'm trying,

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I thank you for showing me all the growth that I should have, I'm sorry that you haven't

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felt seen or heard fully, I know that I will try and I will try to value you as much as I can,

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and notice how your child's eyes light up as if this is all that they need, notice how

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your child's bit instinctively comes closer to you, because your child's aching your validation,

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your child's deeply wanting to connect with you, and so now as your and your child sit

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much closer to each other, look at the situation or this thing that you want to talk about, just

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imagine it pops up in front of you, perhaps in a bubble form where you can see pictures

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but you can just see right through it, and just notice how does this look like, how does

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this whole bubble look like with the whole situation, and maybe you've had so many

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child conversations here, or maybe there is so much emotion and so much judgement and criticism

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around this, then it feels really hard, it's just hard to see through, like it's not a transparent

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bubble, but there's just a lot of colours and energy around it, so just go ahead and this

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is not your job either, you don't have to take all the responsibility, remember you still

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the divine child, and you will continue to be the divine child, even after this meditation,

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so just connect this bubble to the earth, and notice how the earth is so happy to connect

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with the bubble, and she starts believing all that negative energy, the friction, the

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human's the drama, she starts taking all of that away, till the bubble starts appearing

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a lot clearer, a lot see through, so you can actually see what's happening inside, and

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then allow the gold sun to come on top as well, the bubble gets its own gold sun on top,

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and the gold sun is shining beautiful gold light onto the bubble, just filling the space

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up with ease, and you want to have a good conversation, so it's allowing that easy conversation,

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connection, joy, and just look at the bubble, look as the entire situation gets a healing,

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whatever it is that you are fighting around so far, but look how it's just all getting washed,

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how it's all getting a healing, and how the situation is not so charged anymore, it's

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starting to get a lot clearer, and from the gold sun above, imagine that there are gold

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sparkles that are coming into the space, really filling it all up with a lot of ease, contentment,

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connection, so you can have a nice good chat, and you can understand each other, and so when

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you feel this is complete, and the bubble looks good and healthy to you, then you can just

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send it to source, so that source can keep it for you in a nice good clean space, and when

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you connect with your child, then there's a neutral space for you both to talk and connect,

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and look at your child's spirit, you can hug your child, you can have a conversation

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with them as well, whatever it is you want to tell them about the situation, why you want

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to do something a certain way, just talk to them, tell them because they are listening

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to it, their spirit is getting it, and it will get through to them in their body,

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and so as you tell your child your part of the story, just notice what happens, it is

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their free will, it is what they want to do, and sometimes they might just want to process

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the information and think about it, let them do that, and let this beautiful spirit of

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your child, the one that's a lot more grounded, connected with the earth, and having its own

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gold sun, you can just send it back to your child, so that they can have a healing in their

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physical space, right where they are, they can feel a lot more grounded, a lot more comforted,

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and then look at your own picture, your own picture that is connected with the earth, and

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with the gold sun and bring that into you, noticing how you are starting to feel in the

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body, connect with the earth, again if you need to, notice how she is so happy with all

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the work that you've done, and she's telling you that she's going to hold space for you,

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from this point on as you continue on in your journey, she's always there, you just need

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to remember her, and her connection with you is always there, look at the sun, and he's

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saying the same thing, that you've formed these incredible bonds, they were always there,

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you just reconnected to them, and they'll always be there, they'll always be supporting you

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on your journey, so next time when you feel that you want to talk to them, you can just

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reach out and say hello to them, and they'll be right there, so take a nice deep breath,

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taking in all the high vibration, letting it flow through everywhere in your space, and

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take a nice deep exhale, and then open your eyes, thank you for doing this meditation, this

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should have you really settled into a nice good place, and whatever you want to speak with

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your child about, you can do it now, or whenever you feel guided towards it, but the conversation

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should get a whole lot easier and simpler, thank you for doing this in our work, I'll see

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you next time with another meditation.

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